Teach your son to be self sufficient so that he comes into a partnership a complete and capable human, a contibutor and a person who makes it work.
And in the same respect, teach your young men to be self sufficient, kind, strong and caring. Teach them to respect women and mankind and treat them well.
Teach her that her worth is not dependant on someone else. She is worthwhile on her own.
My daughter was raised as such a strong educated person, she will always be able to take care of herself.